Tip #1: Ask
friendly questions. Having a hard
time making conversation? Before you go on the date, first
review the other person's profile and then think of a few
questions to ask. These will help you get to know the other person
better. "Ask, don't babble."
Tip #2: What to Wear? So
you've read GQ or Cosmo, still having a hard time figuring out what
"look" you should have? Ladies, definitely dress conservative for
the first date - you want him talking to you, not ogling your
goodies. And guys, clean and simple does it - no fancy threads are
needed for the first date. No t-shirts, no silk - a polo shirt works
great.
Tip #3: Be Upbeat. Be
upbeat, smile, give the other person reassurance that you're fun to
be around. And sincere. Many people complain or talk about their
past. Be in the present - be pleasant. Be yourself - don't try to be
what you think they want.
Tip #4: Late to the party? Being late shows disrespect and is a sure turn
off. Make a good first impression by being on time. Give yourself an
extra 15 minutes lead time.
Tip #5: Don't wear any cologne or perfume. Nowadays, these are a turnoff to most.
Deodorant alone is fine. Try it.
Tip #6: Confidence is Sexy. How do You show confidence? Make sure to keep
eye contact and a pleasant, relaxed conversation. Being sure of
yourself is attractive - and your date will notice it!
Tip #7: Avoid Current Events. Avoid politics, religion, and world events like
war. Your goal is to learn about the other person's values. Bringing
up potential topics of disagreement is a sure way to not get a
second date. Stay in neutral territory at first
Tip #8: Read their Body Language and React. Are they studying the tabletop more
than you, twenty minutes into the date? Or, are they leaning
forward, making more eye contact? Learn to judge when you're
"blowing it" versus when you're making a good impression. React to
the signals that are being sent to you.
Tip #9: Parting Shots.
Ok the date's over, the check's been paid. If you want to see them
again, tell them so, in a casual way - "I had a good time, thanks -
hey let me know if you want to get together again." This opens up
the possibility of a next date, without asking for a commitment or
getting an awkward silence.
Ready for
that date now? Try out these 9 Tips and let us know how it went!
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